There are moments in life when a change in our perception of the world occurs - a sort of 'click' in consciousness - which causes, that the current environment of friends, family or any community whose views and way of life we have shared so far, stops 'matching with us'. Or perhaps, we stop matching with them altogether. Not because anybody is 'wrong' or 'inappropriate', but simply because both sides have become incompatible.
The new way of thinking and expressing ourselves often means that we start to notice things that we haven't paid attention to in our surrounding environment so far. Certain behaviors and behaviors of others, which until now were obvious - we begin to perceive something we don't fully accept in the new reality. From the moment of the 'click' in our mind, we react differently to the same situations. Our 'new' decisions might not always be 'liked' in the environment where we have belonged. However, if we manage to re-establish contact with it and gain their understanding of our new perception - existing acquaintances have a chance to evolve and still accompany us.
However, it also happens that our new way of responding to the same situations is accepted with discontent, and our actions may be treated as a personal attack. Pain shows up on the other side, which we unintentionally trigger with our decisions. There is no room for connection and understanding of our new way of seeing things. No matter what we say, the other side is immersed in pain so deeply that they can only hear their mind interpreting of what we did and how bad we have been. No dialog is possible any longer, and relationships brake up.
The only thing which is left to accept then is the fact our influence doesn't reach any further. Maybe in some time in the future, when seeing us as the ones who cause pain and trouble will dissipate, good relationships will return? However, before we attract new friends, this may not happen, and we will experience a period of temporary isolation and loneliness. It seems quite similar to traveling to the past, where to communicate with people from that time and to avoid their nervous reaction, we must conceal the fact of coming from a different reality. The problem is, however, that the new us no longer can and wants to live according to the old 'truths' and if staying in harmony with the surrounding environment becomes impossible after the change - we must choose ourselves, and leave old acquaintances where they belong - in the past.
On this long path of loneliness, when we move away from the known, and the new unknown is still ahead, we can find the greatest support and make our first new friend with the new version of ourselves.
Healing by Force of Nature